My Mother-in-Law is So Much More Than Just My Husband’s Mom

Grown woman with mother

I have been married to my mother-in-law’s son for eight years now. In this time, I have come to know this woman like I know no other and have since been in complete awe of her. She defines unconditional love by simply being herself and sprinkles magic in our everyday lives. From far, you would see a woman, or as some people would call her ‘just a woman’. But I have been lucky enough to look closely and see how extraordinary she really is. She carries herself with such grace and confidence that many young girls can take inspiration from. She might have lived a very ordinary life and is a staunch follower of old and traditional customs, but I have rarely met anyone so progressive in her thoughts and so receptive to new ideas.

To many, she would appear to be ‘just a grandma’ taking care of her grandkids and showering them with love. But my kids’ fascination (read “obsession”) with her is a testament to the special role she plays in their lives. She can heal their wounds with such ease and compassion, as they melt in her arms. At times, when I would be too busy taking care of other aspects of their lives, she’d drop everything and provide all the attention in the world they need at that time. I even fear they would be spoilt with such tenderness, but the beautiful image I see of them being comforted and her being so joyful, takes away all my fears. Her special ingredient of love is added not only in her recipes, but in all the moments spent with them, making memories that will last them a lifetime.

She’s just a wife, you’d think, taking care of the day to day chores for her husband and family. But she commands a respect and an honour earned over several years of selflessness and dedication. As she caters to all the needs of her family, she stands as an unyielding pillar sharing joy and grief and being the very foundation of all a marriage demands. It’s a pure joy to often find my in-laws giggling and sharing a private joke that none of the members from the other generations will ever understand.

Some say, she’s ‘just a mom!’ Is that even a phrase I ask, now that I know what all comes along with becoming a mother. Yes, just like any other mom she would do anything for my husband and his brother and would often worry over the slightest of things. But to be able to give them the space to fall, explore and even push them to struggle at times, is something that she does most naturally. She can foresee the light at the end of the dark tunnel and gather the courage to see her own kids fail temporarily only to see the worth later. This quality of a mom, to segregate her feelings and not hope for constant sunshine over her kids is one I truly admire and aspire to have.

The ‘just a mother-in-law’ tag as some would put for her, are clearly not aware of the complexities that come with this relationship. An intricate bond made so smooth and easy for me that I tread on this journey with ease. I often forget she is not my birth mom as she rejoices in my accomplishments and literally cries over my sorrows. I often forget she’s not a friend as we share anecdotes in the kitchen corner or over tea. I often forget she’s not a sister as we talk of (mock!) our own husbands and feel like the “Gilmore Girls” in making. However, I never forget that I am the daughter-in-law in awe of this wonderful lady who would always be more to me than just my husband’s mom.

This piece was originally published on Her View From Home

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Neera Handa says:

    Again a beauty! what a great celebration of motherhood, a tribute to your mother in law, yes, she is more than that. These mothers who give their darling sons to strangers to start their new families, trusting them to bring up their grand children, and continue the family lineage, are certainly much more than husbands’ moms! Friends, and sometimes sisters in arms, and mostly mothers, loving and serving their children including their daughters in law, selflessly. Your ideas for your pieces are so off beat and enthralling! Waiting for the next one eagerly!

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    1. You are such a motivating factor for me and an inspiration yourself.. Love you!!


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