As I approach 40, I’ve found myself with a different perspective on many aspects of my life. I have slowed down physically (which has of course come after a severe injury in my left knee, followed by an even severe sprain in my right ankle recently) as I begin to view my body as a part of myself, not as a tool to look prettier or something that needs to fit in my image of perfect. I listen to my body when it needs rest, give it the much-deserved break at the end of the day, and love it despite all its flaws. I worry less about my weight, and care more about my health.

I approach mornings differently as I’m nearing 40. I don’t spring out of bed anymore but take the time I need to set the tone for the day. I remind myself that I’m fortunate to be here to see the sun rise, have my family around me, and promise to take the day as an opportunity to grow, learn and do more of what brings me joy.  I worry less about the expectations of others from me, and care more about what matters to me.

I listen more to my children as I approach 40. I strive to be there with them in the moment they are in, without thinking of the next few to come. I realise that the next moment that will come will run away as quickly, but what’s here now, is where we are. I don’t throw endless instructions at them, so their minds are free to discuss what’s important to them. I want to be there to lend my ear, to guide if that’s what they need, to calm, to inspire, to drive. I worry less about their future, and care much more about their present.

Even though I now need glasses, I see the beauty around me clearly as I approach 40. I slow down as I sip my tea once the morning has settled. I have started to hear the rustling of the leaves, smile at people when I pass them by, and appreciate the ever-changing colour of the sky. I am grateful to have the opportunity to be amazed by the beauty of nature each and every day. I worry less about my to-do list, and care more about what fills my heart.

As I approach 40, I worry less about what I can’t control, and care very much about how I can make a difference in the life of the person I know best – myself.

Originally published on Her View From Home